Chatting Teen

Aggressive behavior in the child with Asperger’s  Syndrome occurs for a reason, just as it would with any other child.

Inappropriate behavior, whether mild or severe, occurs in order to; avoid something, get something, because of pain, or to fulfill a sensory need.

The first step in reducing or eliminating this behavior is to determine the need that it fulfills.

The second step is to teach them a replacement behavior, i.e. communicate what they want or don’t want.

It may even involve using some of their obsessive or self-stimulating behaviors as a replacement.

This is because it would be far less intrusive to others than aggressive behaviors, but still serve the same purpose.

This process takes time and initially, depending on the behavior, you may not have time.

If the behavior is severe, then you need to remove the child from whatever situation they are in at the time.

Simply insisting that they stop the behavior and participate in whatever is occurring will not benefit the child or you, unless you remove them from the situation first.

Maintaining their routine will go along way towards reducing the need for inappropriate or aggressive behavior in the first place.

This is just one of the many tricks, tips and techniques that you can use to cope with your Asperger’s child’s behaviors that feature in my new book “The Parenting Asperger’s Resource Guide”. Which you can learn more about by clicking here.

- by Dave Angel

When we’re kids, we’ve always been asked the same question, which becomes increasingly important and pressing as we finish high-school.

What do you want to be?

Kids will answer 98% of the time with the name of a job. Medics, engineers, astronauts… The degree of specialization or originality will probably reflect level of maturity and current fads in the media. But I think this is where the problem of finding our purpose in life starts.

The question should not be ‘What do you want to be?’ but rather, ‘What do you want to do?’ Because once you know what you want to do, you will simply know what you will become, and be in the future. So ask yourself this question: What do you like doing, that you can do for an indefinite amount of time, that will bring value to others?

That last part is important. You might like playing games or sleeping but that won’t give any value to anyone but perhaps yourself. And even then only for a while. And I’m sorry to say, that won’t keep you fed and with a roof over your head. So you have to concentrate on something that you enjoy that also helps others in some way.

You can start small, abstract or concrete. It all depends on what you perceive as your skill-set and what you like. It doesn’t even have to be something you know how to do right now, that’s what schools, colleges and universities are for!